To my fellow mothers,
Please remember: we’re all mums. Instinctively and naturally, we want what’s best for our babies. To me, that goes without saying. Criticising mums (for whatever reason) who are doing their best to look after their babies, is not necessary.
We all do what we think is best. We know our children better than anyone. We would give them everything, if we could. We would give them our lives! We do our research, we take some risks when we feel they are worth taking, we make choices that we deem safe and suitable, we bend over backwards to have a happy and healthy baby. Yeah, we also make mistakes – lots of them – but we’re learning on the job, like everyone else. That doesn’t mean that every choice we make is a mistake just because you don’t agree with it. We might actually know what we’re doing, you know!
It’s pointless bringing down or denigrating other mums simply because they don’t raise their children exactly the way you raise yours. Sure, we can do our best to share the knowledge, to raise awareness and to encourage one another to look into things that we give or do to our babies, but why look down or judge a mother for choosing to look after their children the way they see fit?
Does it matter if you breastfeed or formula-feed? Does it matter if you use Waterwipes or baby wipes from the pound shop? Does it matter if you feed your baby home-cooked meals or ready-made pouches and jars? Does it matter if you bath them in water or use a bath wash of your choice? Does it matter if you give them Calpol or chamomile tea when they are in pain? Does any of it matter when you know mums only want what’s best for their children?
It’s ok to have an opinion and to share it, but it’s not ok to get personal and give other mums the ‘naughty’ label if they don’t do exactly what you chose to do with your children. Being supportive is way more helpful than being judgemental.
This is my plea for a less judgemental community for us mums. The job is hard as enough as it is without anyone telling us we’re doing it wrong. There’s far too much negativity around when it comes to opinions on how mums should or should not raise their children.
We could really do with more empathy, don’t you think?